Kids are known to learn from each and every thing
happening in this world. We learn from what we
see and observe, and for these kids, everything is
happening for the first time in front of their eyes!
So, they have the capability to learn from a thing
as small as a flying bee to a thing as large as an
airplane. They have a creative and imaginative
mind, which acts as a dry sponge to absorb
everything in it! They are the innovators of the
future. But they are also prone to a thing that is
common in people of all age groups, that is
fighting with peers. These habitats are just natural,
which enhance with more experience and more
exposure to this violent world. Children have
feelings, but they don’t know the medium or the
way to express them. This is where the elderly
people play their role, that is by teaching them a
proper way to behave and to handle any sort of
situation. But one such situation, where they have
to act first and then consult others is that of a
fight! They have to learn to face it, and not get
bullied! So, they get involved in fights with their
peers. Top 10 most common reasons, as to why
kids get involved in fights with their buddies are
mentioned here.
10. Jealousy
Being one of the most common reasons, it is a
reason that takes various forms and bridges
conflicts between a kid and his peers and friends.
Jealousy is a very common concept, not only in
kids but also in grown ups. Whether grown ups
confess it or not, but they are jealous from inside
at each and every point in their life, where they
come across a person superior to them. But in
kids, jealousy is of a few kinds, like a few kids are
jealous from their friends because their friends
own some sort of new technology, which the other
kid has not yet been able to get his hands on.
Another such reason of being jealous is if his
friend is superior in some particular co-curricular
activity, but he lacks the skill to do that good.
These jealousies are good till some point, but after
that, it becomes an havoc in the heart and mind of
the kid, due to which, he starts ignoring his friend,
laying base for a fight between them! A solution to
prevent this is the parents need to keep a hidden
eye on their kid and manipulate him to stay in his
limits, and not get tempted by seeing others! And
if possible, the parents must fulfill their kid’s
craving.
09. Peer Pressure
Peer Pressure has led to destruction of life of
many youngsters and elderly, and now is grabbing
the new generation. Peer pressure refers to the
pressure by friends and relatives being levied on
the kids regarding a particular task. The kid,
sometimes under pressure, unwillingly performs
that task, which sees a proper failure, leading to
the downfall of morale of the kid! When the morale
of the kid falls down, he blames their peer, and
start planning for a revenge. This revenge
sometimes take a negative morph and leads to a
fight among the kids.
08. Money Issues
One of the most common issues again, which lead
to a fight. Now, monetary issues can lead to a
fight in n number of ways, out of which, the most
common way leads to jealousy. Seeing money in a
friend’s pocket provokes another kid to just grab
that money. This is what they imagine, but cannot
perform in real life, giving them a feel of jealousy.
Parents need to keep an eye on these activities,
and they ought to make their kid self sufficient, so
that he does not look at someone else’s money.
Another form of fights getting evolved due to
monetary issues are when a friend borrows from
another and doesn’t return or just forgets that he
has some debt on him! This gives rise to fights.
07. Studies
Ah! Another point of developing rivalry among
loved ones. This reason of getting into fights is a
foolish one, but still exists in the society. My
friend is better and more intelligent than me in
academics, but I also want to attain this. This
leads to an unhealthy competition, which further
leads to rivalry. Now, everyone does not have
same interest. Some might be strong in theory,
while other might have a good grip in practicals.
Getting involved in a fight with your friend, just
because he is able to grab some text easier than
you does not simply make it a reason to fight. You
might have a slow grabbing power, but donot
make this grabbing power restrict you from
attaining any further knowledge.
06. Fame
Fame comes by your deeds, not by misdeeds. A
negative fame is never of use, but fame attained by
your good deeds, by your efforts is a fame worth
enjoying. Satisfaction comes by this, and if some
of your friend is getting jealous of this, you simply
cannot do anything about it, but simple avoid a
fight with him, as he is surely going to come and
try having a fight with you in order to defame you.
Just stay calm and peaceful, and try giving him a
piece of your mind.
05. Bullies
Everyone among us has gone through bullies
during our school days, as these are inevitable. In
every school or I must say, in every batch, you
would surely find a person who treats himself as
the most superior person among all. These bullies
although irritates everyone, but if we see as an
optimist, these bullies give us a life changing
experience. An experience that we are going to face
such people in every phase of life, wherever we go!
So, why not prepare yourself beforehand for the
things that are going to strike you in the face
soon! So instead of getting into a fight with these
huge creatures, enjoy their bullying, stay strong,
and have a methodology to face them and oppose
them. They cannot do anything bad to you, you just
need to get over our fear!
04. Fighting over a Toy
Again a common reason to fight, kids get involved
in fights with their loved ones over petty issues
like who will be the mother in their little “Role
Playing Games” and stuff like that. They also
involve themselves in a fight over a toy. Each kid
tries to show its monopoly over the toy, as if they
are their sole owners. If we observe these things
properly, these petty issues remain in our life
forever, and we always get involved in fights over
them. So, why fight for them when you can attain a
common conclusion, which would benefit both the
parties?
03. Sick or Reserved Kind of Kid
These are the students who have the maximum
probability of getting involved into fights. When a
person gets sick, and starts vomiting in the class,
instead of taking care of him, the fellow students
start seeing that kid with a look of disgust. They
start twisting their eyes to avoid any kind of eye
contact with that kid. As a result, the kid loses all
of his self confidence, and reaches an inference
that no one likes him. Even if someone tries to talk
to him, he starts seeing them with a look of hatred,
leading to getting into a fight.
02. Girlfriend
This issue is going to remain a base reason of a
fight as long as this world persists. According to
surveys, females are the most common reasons of
creating distances among male friends. The most
common scenario in which, a girl creates a
distance between two best friends is when both
friends like the same girl, and try approaching her.
The girl becomes non achievable, while the friends
start seeing each other with a look of hatred.
Within no time, they become enemies from best
friends. Please do not infer that I am a male
chauvinist guy, as I understand that it is never the
girl’s mistake that both of the friends liked her.
She didn’t attract them or something. It is simple
and plain human nature. So, on an ironic note,
saying that “Girls – Creating Distances between
Friends since 1542” won’t be wrong.
01. Family Issues
A common topic of fight for kids with their friends
is when they are stressed by the conditions of their
family. Parents fighting in front of their children can
be very commonly observed in almost every
household. This creates a negative impression on
the kids, as they learn from what they see! So, they
also get involved in a fight with their friends!
Another reason that leads to the kids fighting with
their friends is the pressure that they get on their
minds in young age. This pressure is usualy
generated by family issues like divorce in the
family, or something of this sort. Sometimes, they
don’t get the desired love from their family, which
makes them depressed and irritated, leading to a
change in behaviour with their friends!
